Talking doesn’t change things. Talking opens up the things you both want to change, but that doesn’t mean they will. Talking does not the relationship make, but it contributes. Action is what makes the relationship. If you recognise that you have upset your partner, and you know why, what talking needs to be done? You fucked up my friend, don’t make it worse ‘ What did I do?’ unless you really don’t know. If you do know, ACT on it.